“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
This little word has held me back in so many areas throughout the years and caused so much anxiety. Truth is, this one word describes part of why it took me so long to get started with Jen’s Happy Mail and this blog. We have all heard the comments, “don’t compare yourself”, “be yourself”, “we love you just the way you are” and I’m sure a lot of others. I’m here to say that anyone who has told you these things is exactly right, and they left out that fact that it’s freakin’ hard. The voices sneak in and if you don’t catch them quickly, yep there is the rabbit hole of negative. But, Why? We are all truly better and more capable then we let ourselves believe so why do we let the accomplishments of others slow us in our tracks. Yes, they are accomplishments, great for them for doing whatever it is they have done. We have no idea what it took for them to get to where they are. Let’s celebrate the wins that they have had. We should start looking at this as a goal, a target, a “that’s my goal”! So why do we do it?
Let’s start by looking at what comparison does.
OK, so we know the impact or at least some of the ways it can impact us, what can we do about it? First things first, don’t stress yourself more about it, start shifting, small wins. It’s all about progress not perfection.
It’s time to stop allowing all the great things you have done and great things you have to offer be forgotten or go unnoticed by the false expectations you are putting on yourself by comparing yourself to others.
Always remember you are pretty freakin’ amazing!!
In the good words of Jen Sincero, “You are the only You there is. And you are the only you that will ever be”.
Be who you are, live your truth and go after the thing you want from life.
Much love friends!
Supporter of people and growth. I absolutely LOVE helping others see in themselves what I see in them. We all have good in us, we just need a bit of help seeing it at times.